Did you know...


Although we have few statistics on the incidence of domestic violence, 
we  do know that:


Why Do They Stay?


    The most frequently as question concerning a bettering situation is "why 
does she stay?" While reasons cover the range from children, love, guilt, fear, pride, embarrassment, financial dependence... or a combination thereof, it is
 very possible the woman is unaware that she may be locked into a violence 

Three-Phase Theory of Family Violence

The family violence cycle consists of three phases:

Tension-Building Phase

    During this phase the woman senses her mate's increasing tension. He is 
"edgy," and perhaps challenges her and tells her she is stupid, incompetent, 
etc. The woman may internalize her appropriate anger at the man's unfairness, 
and experience physical effects such as depression, tension, anxiety and headaches. As the tension increases, minor episodes of violence increase, such 
as pinching, slapping or shoving.

Acute-Battering Phase

    The tension-building phase ends in an explosion of violence. The woman 
may or may not fight back following the battering because she is in a state of physical and psychological shock. The man may discount the episode and underestimate the woman's injuries.

Loving Reconciliation Phase

    During the last phase of the family violence cycle, both parties have a 
sense of relief that "it's over." The man is often genuinely sorry for what 
happened, and is fearful his partner will leave him. He apologizes and may 
"shower" her with love and praise that helps her repair her shattered 
self-esteem. He tells her he can't live without her, so she feels responsible 
for his well-being and guilty for her actions and blames herself for what led 
up to the abuse.


Increasing Spiral of Violence

    Once the violence has begun, it continues to increase in both frequency 
and severity. Understanding the psychological consequences of her violent relationship can help the woman take power and choose constructive 
alternatives, as well as aid those who intervene to help her.


If you become a Victim of Domestic Violence

A way out

    Everyone has the right to be safe from threats and beatings, but you must
take that first step. Once you recognize that it isn't your fault and it is possible 
to change your situation ... seek help. You need to correct your situation.



Contact Information

Lynn Police Department
Domestic Violence Unit
300 Washington Street
Lynn, MA  01902